The Painful Process Of Death

“From the unreal lead me to the real.  From darkness lead me to light.  From death lead me to immortality.” ~ The Upanishads

I am so sad.  So sad.  My friend is gone and I am so sad.  My heart is heavy and tears are never far away.  I believe a lot of wonderful things about the after life.  So why am so I sad?

I guess I am sad for me, to be here without her.  I am sad for her, that she had such a hard life.  I am sad for the incredible suffering she went through.  I am sad I couldn’t love her enough to make that pain go away.

Even though I believe in reincarnation and I believe in the spirit world, it’s all about love and light, I am still afraid of death.  How would it be to be physically away from my loved ones?  Not to be able to touch them and tell them I love them?  Not to be able to support them?

I do believe, on the other side, I can still do all these things.  But… can I really?  I believe we all have a soul family, a life guide, guardian angels and archangels looking out for us.  When I die, I would love to be a guardian angel.

Death is such a feared subject.  People don’t want to talk about death.  If aging was more connected to becoming a wise and respected elder, I think more of us would not fear aging.  I think America, in general, is dismissive of the elderly because we don’t want to think about our own demise.

Many of my clients are getting up there in years and they have so many stories.  They are wise historians and advisors.  They have already been through many hardships and they know so much.  They have already learned patience and acceptance.  They have already loved and lost.  They are already facing their declining health and well-being and they face it with grace, humor and acceptance.

I am glad we now host “Celebrations of Life” instead of “Memorial Services”.  I hope we continue to learn to process life and death in more healthy ways and rituals.  My ritual, for when a loved one dies, is to infuse a candle with Reiki and say a prayer.  I send Reiki, love and light to his or her soul. I am hoping to make the transition easier for them to find peace.  I know it makes it easier for me.

“Death does not take the old but the ripe.” ~ Russian proverb